My Chinese name

My Chinese name is (tao2)(jia1)(tai4) – an archaic version of these characters is shown on my chop (reading from right to left and top to bottom).

The first character, tao2 is my family name and the spelling "To" comes from the Cantonese pronunciation.

The second character is my generation name. In the latter half of the 19th century my paternal great-great-grandfather chose my family's generation names for the succeeding eight generations using the following couplet:

(dun1)(hou4)(chuan2)(jia1).
(shi1)(shu1)(ji4)(shi4).

A generation name, common to the offspring of each generation, is typically given to the children* of the the male descendants of the male descendants, etc.** of the original ancestor (in my family's case this was my paternal great-great-grandfather). For example, the generation name of my paternal great-grandfather and his brothers is dun1, the generation name of my paternal grandfather is hou4, etc. Being from the fifth generation following my great-great-grandfather, the generation name for my children will be shi1*** and should they choose to continue this tradition, the generation name for my grandchildren will be shu1.****

The final character of my name was chosen by my parents. My father's nickname as a child was "a1 tai4" – I was and still am called this by my relatives and family friends.


*In some families (including my own), generation names are only assigned to male children, however, my parents broke with tradition and gave my sister the same generation name. Louise and I will of course follow suit.

**Although traditionally generation names are only assigned to the children of male descendants, my cousin Mary (crazy radical that she is) assigned her children the corresponding generation name from great-great-grandfather's couplet.
***Since I first wrote this in November of 2005, my son Henry Sam To was born on March 24, 2006 at 2:17am. After considerable deliberation with my mom and consulting the internet for auspicious characters for someone of his birth date and time and considering characters with an appropriate number of strokes, we settled on (tao2)(shi1)(huan4) for Henry's Chinese name.
****If my descendants exhaust the eight characters of the poem, in order to continue the tradition, they would have to either write additional verses for the poem or begin again from the beginning. The latter is more common.